Dr. Neil Cannon is a couples counselor and sex therapist in Denver, Colorado with certification from the highly prestigious American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. He is also a Board Certified sexologist from both the ABS and ACS, (sexology is the scientific study of sexual attitudes and behavior). Dr. Neil is on faculty at Denver Family Institute, the Rocky Mountain’s leading marriage and family therapy school. Dr. Neil is a popular guest lecturer at leading universities throughout Colorado, the co-host of the Sex & Intimacy Show, a popular international speaker, and a favored guest on television and radio.
Education
- Masters degree in Public Health
- Doctorate in Human Sexuality
- Post graduate certification in Marriage and Family Therapy
- Post graduate certification in gay lesbian bisexual and transgender family systems
Contact Information
- Web: www.doctorcannon.com
- Blog: doctorcannon.wordpress.com
- Phone: 303.670.5600
I have been involved with a man that I have genuine affection for. In the beginning of our relationship our sex life was fun and fulfilling! For the past several months sex has been minimul and my partner either does not ejaculate or looses his errection. Which is frustrating and sad for me as I feel like I am a bad lover or that my anatomy is “loose”. He says that he is stil turned on by me but maybe we are not sexually compatible. He says that this has not happened in previous relationships but has alluded to orgasming not always happenning.
In the very beggining of our relationship he could go all night with little time needed for refractory. So, I asked after our last fail attempt if he had used a pill. He was insulted by the question……but, I didn’t mean it in that way. Truly I was to help and I was us to have a fun and fulfilling relationship. He says he finds me attractive, fun,….that I turn him on. But, because of this we have been avoiding intimacy. Which we both admit is importan to a relationship. Personally, I have always prided myself on being a good and giving lover. Now I feel loose and useless (I have never had any children) I do kegels and am willing to do them with weights. If this problem doesn not get solved, I think our relationship is over which makes me very sad.
Do you think therapy would help or a book suggesion? Any suggesion would be helpful.
Warm Regards,
Lisa
Hi Lisa,
I’m sorry you are struggling. Yes, therapy could be a great solution for you. Here is the link to the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). At AASECT you can find a certified sex therapist in your area who should be able to help you and your partner. Good luck!
Neil
http://aasect.org/directory.asp
Dr. Neil,
I recently started a business where I sell intimate and sensual adult items. I am curious how products like these are viewed by professionals in your field. I understand there is a lot of negative feelings about this industry because it is so closely associated with the adult novelty industry. I went out on my own after years of frustration exactly because of this. I really and truly believe there is a practical application for these products for couples in committed relationships. My perspective is to present material and products in a dignified way with products that are not realistic, overly phallic or offensive. I exclusively deal with high quality intimate products that are safe for women and avoid novelties and gags. Sensual products have really helped me with my own sexual issues and it is the primary reason why I want to help others. I’d appreciate any comments or thoughts you have on this topic and would be pleased to discuss this further if you are interested. I am located in the Denver area.
Thank you for your time.
-Lauren