Countless couples come to me on the verge of divorce. The last two weeks were particularly difficult for me to see so many nice people in so much pain. By the time they get to me, there is often much unresolved anger, a lack of trust, no empathy and an overall sense of hopelessness. If the couple is in [...]
Archive for February, 2009
Divorce is a high stakes game where only the lawyers win…
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged Dr. Neil Cannon, sex therapy on February 28, 2009 | 2 Comments »
Intergalactic gender-bias…
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged Dr. Neil Cannon, gender-bias, sex therapy on February 25, 2009 | 1 Comment »
Ouch!
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged abstinence only, comprehensive sexuality education, cross cultural sexuality, Dr. Neil Cannon, sex ecucation, sex ed, sex therapy, sex toys on February 13, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
I’m in Canada speaking tonight. Many people ask what it means when I say that my life mission is to help make the world a more sex positive place and here’s but one example. Cross culturally the differences between Canada and my beloved America are vast. The former Prime Minister of Canada, Pierre Trudeau said, “The government [...]
Kelloggs dumps Michael Phelps…
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged anti-masturbation devices, Dr. John Harvey Kellogg, Dr. Neil Cannon, Kelloggs Corn Flakes, masturbation, masturbator, Michael Phelps and marijuana, Michael Phelps and Pot, sex therapy denver on February 7, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
Olympic star Michael Phelps was dumped by Kelloggs Corn Flakes this week for smoking pot. Interestingly, Kelloggs has a long history of rigidity. Dr. John Harvey Kellogg originally created corn flakes as a health food back in 1906. Kellogg was an influential author and proponent of health and nutrition. Unfortunately, Dr. Kellogg also believed that [...]
Sadomasochists are no different than Ma & Pa Kettle…
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged bdsm, bondage, Dr. Neil Cannon, leather, role play, sadomasochism, sadomasochits, sex, spanking on February 6, 2009 | 1 Comment »
I had a record number of visits to my blog yesterday when I wrote about spanking. Since there was so much interest in the topic it seems that one good spanking deserves another. There were four recent scientific studies conducted on the mental health of BDSM practitioners. Each study found no evidence of psychopathology and there has [...]
A spanking good time…
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged bdsm, bondage, Couples counseling, discipline, domination, Dr. Neil Cannon, masochism, relationships, role play, sadomasochism, sex, sex therapy, sm, spanking on February 5, 2009 | 1 Comment »
I had a client last week who loves to be spanked as foreplay. Her husband is reluctant. He wants to know why she wants to be spanked and is it normal. The first thing we need to do is forget about why. We don’t know why and it’s not important. What is important is what [...]
Sex on the beach…
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged Couples counseling, Dr. Neil Cannon, intimacy, relationships, sex, sex on the beach on February 3, 2009 | 2 Comments »
One of the biggest challenges couples of all ages face is the use of what I call the two “killer words,” i.e., “always” and “never.” You always do this and you never do that! Always and never are relationship killers because they don’t allow for growth and change. I love this picture of two young [...]
Overcoming Sexual Shame…
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged abuse, guilt, hope, sex, sex therapy, shame, trauma on February 1, 2009 | 2 Comments »
Guilt is feeling bad for what we did, i.e., “I had unprotected sex.” Shame is feeling bad for who we are, i.e., “I’m a slut.” Shame is that inner voice that says, “I’m not good enough.” For many people shame becomes the core belief of who we are and eats away at the deepest part [...]
